3 Key Components to a Dating Profile
While the online dating scene can be a demoralizing experience from time to time, it also has the potential to also be exciting and rewarding. The first step to preventing the former and encouraging the latter is a solid dating profile. So the question then is how do people make choices on dating sites?
(1) Dating Compatibility Percentage
Most dating sites have a Q&A section where you get to answer specific questions that are categorized into politics, lifestyle choice, sexual proclivities, dating style, and others. The more questions you answer, the more likely you are to be paired up with folks that fit you well, so answer them thoroughly and honestly. On sites like OkCupid, you can specify which answers you hope to receive. So for instance, two sexually submissive partners would not be a good match just because they answered the question the same way. If you take the time out to answer these questions, you’ll find that you’ll have better odds of meeting someone who’s a good fit for you.
Matches can be sorted by compatibility so better matches will show up at the top of the feed, and will likely be selected first by users.
(2) Dating Profile Pictures
The second step in the vetting process is your profile picture, which says much more about you than you probably realize. It’s always best to include a laptop selfie of your face, and you should probably try your hardest to smile. Goofy faces are not recommended nor are leering stares that you think are hot and mysterious but come across as predatory and unsettling. Your best bet in such instances is to not make a face at all. You should include at least one instance of yourself doing something that is fun somewhere, and pictures taken by close friends of the opposite sex (or the same sex but only if you’re a girl), (or if you have a gay friend and you’re straight and a dude and not a homophobe), because are close friends tend to see the best in us, and they also bring out the best in us.
(3) The Dating Description
Now, if you’ve passed the litmus of the first 2 trials, it’s onto the 3rd and arguably, the most important: your dating description. The best dating profiles are all going to include things that don’t make you seem:
On the other hand, the best dating profiles are going to include things that do make you seem like you are/have:
- Down to earth
- Depth of Character
The best advice I can give you when crafting your dating profile and writing about yourself is to write about yourself without writing about yourself. Instead, focus on what you do, what you hope to do, the things you enjoy doing when you’re not at work, what you want from a relationship. People who overstress their own qualities or characteristics often come across like liars, especially when their profile shows no sign of the qualities they are claiming they have. If you’re witty, then show me you’re witty. Don’t say you’re witty. It’s not witty to claim you’re witty. If I can see you’re witty, I’ll come to that conclusion myself. And folks, be honest, especially about what you want in a relationship.